What is “Source”… Well it is know as one of the most valuable distinctions in a life lived successfully.
I often hear messages when I most need them. Sometimes you hear something so many times you know what it means , but you lose the effect because you become desensitized to it. I was reminded today in a different way. A dear friend of mine bought me a calender of daily quotes from “Women who do too much”. There are what they call RED FLAGS to remind you that you are not on a good course. It stated, “Make a mental note to start raising a mental red flag when you start blaming someone else for anything. Retreat to your part in the issue, and you’ll feel much better. Victims aren’t very happy people”.
In fact “Victims” are miserable, they take no responsibility for anything in their lives. They point fingers, Sue, blame, fault, whine, cry, and get a bigger pay-off in being wronged, then figuring out how to make it right or moving on to happiness and peace.
Taking “Responsibility and Accountability” does not mean taking the blame, and it does not mean faulting oneself. It means I am “Source” it means STOPPING and asking yourself, “What was my way of being ( or how was I being) that had me end up with these results?” or “I have these results So What , Now What (another distinction) ?”
All you have are you RESULTS. Those results are the key to your “Source” “Omega” “Being”…
The strongest example I can think of and many facillitators of personal growth seminars use is a woman by the name of Candice Lightner the following is an article from Wikipedia
Candice Lightner was the organizer and founding president of Mothers Against Drunk Driving (MADD). In 1980, Lightner’s 13-year-old daughter, Cari, was killed by a drunken hit-and-run driver as she walked down a suburban street in California. The impact of the accident broke almost every bone in her body and fractured her skull, yet the driver left her dead body at the scene. “I promised myself on the day of Cari’s death that I would fight to make this needless homicide count for something positive in the years ahead,” Candy Lightner later wrote.
A 1983 television movie about Lightner resulted in publicity for the group, which grew rapidly.
In the early 1990s, the group managed to attract attention from the United States Congress. At a time when alcohol consumption laws varied greatly by state, New Jersey Senator Frank Lautenberg was a notable early supporter. The group had its greatest success with the imposition of a 1984 federal law, the National Minimum Drinking Age Act, that introduced a federal penalty (a 5%–later raised to 10%–loss of federal highway dollars), for states that didn’t raise to 21 the minimum legal age for the purchase and possession of alcohol. After the United States Supreme Court upheld the law in the 1987 case of South Dakota v. Dole, every state capitulated.
Lautenberg took exception to the fact that youth in New Jersey could easily travel into New York to purchase alcoholic beverages, thereby circumventing New Jersey’s law restricting consumption to those 21-years-old and over.
In 1988, a drunk driver traveling the wrong way on Interstate 71 in Kentucky caused a head-on collision with a school bus. 27 people died and dozens more were injured in the ensuing fire. The Carrollton bus disaster in 1988 was tied with another bus crash in Kentucky in 1958as the deadliest bus crash in U.S. history, and remains the country’s deadliest drunk-driving incident to date. In the aftermath, several parents of the victims became actively involved in MADD, and one became its national president.
In 1990, MADD introduced its “20 by 2000″ plan to reduce the proportion of traffic fatalities that are alcohol-related 20 percent by the year 2000. This goal was accomplished three years early, in 1997.
That same year, MADD Canada was founded.
In 1991, MADD released its first “Rating the States” report, grading the states in their progress against drunk driving. “Rating the States” has been released four times since then.
In 1999, MADD’s National Board of Directors unanimously voted to change the organization’s mission statement to include the prevention of underage drinking.
In 2002, MADD announced an “Eight-Point Plan”. This comprised:
- Resuscitate the nation’s efforts to prevent impaired driving.
- Increase driving while intoxicated (DWI)/driving under the influence (DUI) enforcement, especially the use of frequent, highly publicized sobriety checkpoints.
- Enact primary enforcement seat belt laws in all states.
- Create tougher, more comprehensive sanctions geared toward higher-risk drivers.
- Develop a dedicated National Traffic Safety Fund.
- Reduce underage drinking.
- Increase beer excise taxes to the same level as those for spirits.
- Reinvigorate court monitoring programs.
In a November 2006 press release, MADD launched its Campaign to Eliminate Drunk Driving: this is a four-point plan to completely eliminate drunk driving in the United States using a combination of current technology (such as alcohol ignition interlock devices), new technology in smart cars, law enforcement, and grass roots activism.
This is an example of making Lemonade out of sour lemons.
How about failing marriages, children’s failing grades, the children succumbing to peer pressure, drugs, sex, teen pregnancy, ostracized relatives.
The most positive and brave thing a person can do for oneself is ask yourself, “How am I responsible for these results?” and “What can I Be, and Do to Have different results?” Then you will have the results you dreamed of…
“Being the Source to an Accountable World”
~ Julia A. Renfro